Wednesday, September 30, 2009

The Law Of Attraction Sales Warrior - At the Coal Face 7 - Allowing

Today I want to continue talking about allowing. Rather than continue with my sales based examples, I would like to talk to you about my struggle with manifesting money. For sometime money has seemed scarce to me. Rarely has there seemed to be enough to do the things I want to do in life, as I have lurched from one bill to another.

Now I find my self once again with significantly less money than I need and have been struggling for sometime to manifest what I need. I have found this process has thrown up all sorts of negative feelings about money. From, “I never have money!” To, “I never earn enough money.” And continues with, “Bills always come at the wrong time!” You get the idea.

The dead line for this money is near and I have been trying to conquer thoughts of all the scenarios and consequences that come to pass should I not receive the money. Florence Scovel Shinn in “The Game of Life” talks of

“ perfect faith” which dictates that once you have asked for your desires, th all your thoughts should be on receiving the manifestation, not planning an alternative action should the manifestation not be received. She has lots of great little stories to explain and illustrate this. And it has some logic to it that if you asking source to bring a particular thing, then thoughts of any sort of alternative, demonstrates you do truly expect the desired result and yet it is this expectation which is key. Also I believe there is flow involved in manifestation and so any “earthly interference” disrupts this flow.

And so today I have gotten my feelings into a place of expectation. I have used the statement I wrote of last week. “What if all this is resolved and this problem of not having money just melts away?”

Now I feel calm and relaxed and received the thought, “There is nothing more important than feeling good” and this situation demonstrates to clearly the importance of this statement. I have found in my sales process that this attainment of calm is important and has always brought success to me and this all feels right in this moment of time.

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

The Law Of Attraction Sales Warrior - At the Coal Face 6 - Allowing

The experience I wanted to talk about today was a situation I had with a customer. He had ordered a group of appliances for his kitchen and all were ready for collection except for his cook top, which wouldn’t be available for 2 weeks and his kitchen was being installed as we speak.

On Monday afternoon I attempted to talk a manager about what we maybe able to do to solve the problem. Just as she became available, a client returned and used up all my remaining time for the day. Tuesday was my day off, but I resolved to come in next morning to fix the problem before it got out of hand.

So there I was driving to work on my day off, running later than I had planned, due to a minor disaster at home, and whining in my thoughts about having to do so and imagining the struggle I was about endure to get this customer his cook top. Feeling all this negativity building up with me, I decided this was not the way to go and remembered similar occasions where instead I had thought, “What if the problem was solved? What if it just melted away and I could get on with enjoying my day off?”

Good feelings rose within me and I felt much better as I held onto this thought. Soon I arrived at work, collected the information about the customer, including a brochure on the cook top than I needed to source. I went up to the manager and she saw the brochure.

“Do you need one of those?”

I then started to pour out my tale of woe when she interrupted me and said.

“ He was in this morning and I managed to get the warehouse to allocate him one as some of the other customers who have bought them, don’t need them for a few weeks.”

Problem solved! It just melted away! Amazing!

If I am guilty of anything it is to too often to forgetting to release my negative thoughts and move to a better one and allow the universe to act. The outcomes can be amazing and life is so much better!

I think that problems have a kind of density to them that makes it easy for us to hold on to. We rationalize them. We examine them we whine about them and generally magnify their vibrational strength.

So, next time you find yourself going over and over something problematic.

Stop!!!!!

Think. “What if…………..”

Feel the relief and release it to universe. Don’t force any more thoughts about your desires. Trust the universe the universe to handle it. Now check how you are feeling.

Good? Move on with your day.

Negative? Look for another thought until you feel relief.

I think this releasing to the universe, that is allowing, is the thing we all have the most difficulty with as we are taught to tackle problems. Wrestle with them and persist.

For many this process of release would seem far too passive. Maybe even a cop out. But if you can find the feeling of trust in the universe your desires will be answered.

Allow yourself a wonderful life!

Graham.

Thursday, September 17, 2009

The Law Of Attraction Sales Warrior - At the Coal Face 5

After 5 days off I am invigorated again and experiencing good energy. This week I have again been focusing on quotes “Manifest Your Desires” by Esther & Jerry Hicks. In particular: “It is not possible to stand still, or be stuck, because Energy, and therefore, life, is always in motion. Things are always changing. But the reason it may feel to you as if you are stuck is because while you are continuing to think the same the thoughts, things are changing – but they are changing to the same thing, over and over. If you want things to change to different things, you must think different thoughts. And that simply requires finding unfamiliar ways of approaching familiar subjects.” This resonates with me because when seeking to create positively I often end up in the same old place. “Nothing’s happening. I can’t do this.” And guess what. Nothing does change! The time I have had off work has been great and I am feeling good. I find when I am tired that my connection to energy wanes and it is much harder to move from where I am to choosing a new thought. I find I can get stuck in negativity a bit and this was the reason I chose to take a few days off, because I knew I was struggling to feel good when I chose a new thought. But the energy is back and I am feeling positive. This quote is important because it explains why many of us struggle to create positively because many of old thoughts the create our “reality” are deeply entrenched and are hard to move. As an example of changing thought patterns, I have been playing a game with myself when I have driving my car. A gentle and sensitive person I unfortunately seem to grow horns once I get behind the wheel. I am a safe driver these days but I am prone to get impatient and some of this has to do with my keen interest in motor racing and so I tend to treat driving my car like being in a Grand Prix and try to cover the distance required in the shortest possible time, whilst staying with in the speed limit. So this leads to a bit of swearing and derogatory names flung at other drivers. What I have been doing is adjusting my thought from the position of: “Get out of my way. I’m in hurry.” To: “Smooth, safe and calm.” Every time the aggression begins to rise, I move my thoughts to: “Smooth, safe and calm.” The effect on my driving is dramatic. I now flow with the traffic, retain my calm, which obviously makes a safer driver, who still seems to take the same amount of time to get to places. In the context of my selling I have found my set point thoughts to be: “I’m struggling because of the poor economy. If it wasn’t for that I would be doing well.” “Sales are hard to come by.” “I can’t earn what I want.” It’s pretty easy to see where I am going to end up with thoughts like that! So I am moving to: “I am a great sales person.” “I always attract sales easily.” “I am one of the top sales people in the company.” I find the difference palpable. On the days I remain calm and hold these thoughts then things always go well. Recently there have been days where it has been very quiet for most of the day and then I have made sales late and gone home happy. If it is quiet in the morning and I am beginning to feel a bit negative about how the day is going to be, I choose: “It’s not how you start. It is how you finish.” And: “I often make sales late in the day.” I find these help me allow sales to come to me. Once you think: “It’s a dead day.” Or you start thinking about telling your partner you’ve had a lousy, as I have done on occasion, you are interrupting the flow and it will certainly turn out as you expect. Move to more positive thoughts and reap the rewards! Happy selling! Graham.

The Law Of Attraction Sales Warrior - At the Coal Face 4

I am currently in the middle of having 5 days off work as I have taken a couple of annual leave days attached to my regular days off. I took these days off because I have a new rotating roster in which I work 6 days, have 1 day off, work 6 days have a day off and then have 6 days off in the next 14. I don’t like it very much and compared to my old roster where I had consistent and evenly spread days off, I find it taxing and that it wears me out. Thus the leave days off to have a breather and freshen up. But I kind off wonder whether fatigue is produced as much by my continual discontent with the roster and me persistently thinking that the roster is tough and that I find it tough to make it through. I am always thinking, “ It’s tough. It’s unfair. I don’t like it. It wears me out. My energy feels low.” You can see the frame of mind or tone this creates. And the result has been that in the last day my sales have been very poor and I have really struggled. My results have been similar to most other people in the store, as traffic has been very quiet, but in the past if I have maintained a positive tone of expectancy I still achieved good results inn these circumstances. So this brings me to my point. Is my situation the result of my negative thoughts and tone? I was thinking about this today, as it has been a key goal for me during my days off, too bring the positivity back into my life. Then it came to me. The tone of our thoughts has an impact on the life we create on short term basis as I have described, but also we actually have an underlying tone to our lives all the time. Those inherent thoughts that creep into minds all day every day and form a major part of who we are. “ I’m not very well off.” “I haven’t got enough money.” “I’m OK at my job.” “I’m not good at sports.” “ I can’t control my weight.’ “I eat too much.” “I’m always sick.” “I catch every bug that’s going round.” “ I’m not one of the popular people.” “Good things never happen to me.” “I never win.” Of course hopefully you carry some positive thoughts as well, and I sure some people carry a greater number of positive thoughts than negative. “I’m good at this.” “My work is enjoyable and rewarding.” “I have plenty of money to enjoy a great holiday.” “I buy new clothes all the time.” “I always change my car over every 3 years.” “I always look and feel great.” “I am fit and healthy.” “I always do well.” “I am a champion.” I found it an interesting exercise to watching these thoughts as they came along. What you will find is there is a general tone, which is the balance between the positive and negative. Are the thoughts a greater degree in the positive? Or are the weight of thoughts in the negative? If we believe that our life is created via the LOA then this balance will dictate whether we are experiencing positive or negative creation in our life. Another way to look at this is imagine you had three dollops of paint. One dollop is a primary colour like blue and the other two dollops being black dollop and a white respectively. If black represents negativity and white positivity, so as you add more black, so does the tone darken. Conversely as you add more white the tone brightens. And so it is with our thoughts. As we offer more positive thoughts what we create is positive. And conversely with more negative thoughts we create in the negative. And so our role is monitor that underlining tone and move to lighter and brighter thoughts that will bring us our desires. My personal tone is not very positive. It includes struggle, hardship, low expectancy and compromise. By adopting more allowing thoughts I expect to receive my life desires.

Sunday, September 13, 2009

The Law Of Attraction Sales Warrior - At the Coal Face 3

Last week I mentioned that I find I have to keep finding news ways of focusing on LOA so I continue to progress and so I am always looking for stimulus that makes me feel good in the current moment. This week I re-discovered “Manifest Your Desires” which is an Abraham-Hicks book with 365 quotations that focus on deliberate creation that had been sitting in a drawer. The quote that first stimulated me was:

“ What you think and what you get is always a perfect vibrational match, so it can be very helpful to make a conscious correlation between what you are thinking and what is manifesting in you life experience, but it is even more helpful if you are able to discern where you are headed even before you get there. Once you understand you emotions and what your vibrational offering has been, you can tell, by the way you feel, exactly where you are headed.”

This quote resonated with me as I looked back on my life and examined the sort of thoughts and feelings I have carried during my life and the resultant struggle, difficulty and lack of prosperity that I have experienced. It made perfect sense. Lacking confidence and constantly fearing the worst has brought me a life that I would like to dramatically improve.

Another quote that caught my interest was:

“ Once you understand that the way you feel indicates your level of allowing or resisting, you now hold the key to creating anything that you desire. It is not possible for you to consistently feel positive emotion about something and have it turn out badly, just as it is not possible for you to consistently feel bad about something and have it turn out well – and the way you feel will tell you if you are allowing your natural Well-being or not.”

And so I vowed this week to focus on thoughts that evoked positive feelings and it seemed clear to me that the thoughts I have been carrying in my life have not been delivering what I desire. They included:

I’m always a good middle performer
I never seem to be able to earn as much as others
Opportunity never seems to come my way
I’m very sensitive and this makes my life difficult
I can’t do that
To be the best you have to be aggressive towards others
I’m not aggressive
I’m too nice
I can’t afford that
We always get bills at the wrong time


You get the idea.

So I put the book of quotes in my drawer at work and when it felt as though negative feelings were beginning to emerge I read a couple of quotes and focused my thoughts on the outcomes that I desired and was able maintain good feelings.

The weekend was positive with me achieving good results once again with a couple of excellent deals just emerging out of nowhere. The best example was when I was about to make a phone call to a client a gentleman very politely came and asked if I could help. “Yes. Of course.” Then he proceeded to spell out a list of goods that they wanted to buy and $8000 later I had double my daily budget. Great!

These sales generated feelings of euphoria within me and so I spent most of the weekend high as a kite!

Monday was the end of the month and I managed enough sales to achieve my best results ever! Tuesday was amazing in that I was quite flat as it was my 6th day at work in a row and it reached 3pm in the afternoon without making a sale. I took a couple of minutes to focus on my desires for sales and low and behold within the next hour I made 3 sales! Then at 5-20Pm, just before closing one of my colleagues came up to me with a couple I recognized. This was a sale he had agreed to split with me as we had both served them which brought my total for the day to over $7000. A great start for the month. I think it is going to be a good one!

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

The Law Of Attraction Sales Warrior - At the Coal Face 2

am sure there are people who are wondering why I am devoting so much time to the use of Law of Attraction in the process of selling. The reasons I have chosen to do this, is to firstly develop the process. Secondly it seems the results from ones thoughts come quickly and often. Lastly I believe these lessons can be applied to other areas of life quite easily.

Many of the Blogs and forums I read, people are not receiving their the desires when they have chosen to apply LOA principles. They read books, listen to tapes and still their desires elude them. Then it dawned on me this week why this situation may occur. We humans are driven to find a process. A sure fire way, that if we follow it to the letter, the results we desire wii be recieved. You know the way. Follow steps 1, 2 , 3 & 4 and hey presto the desired result is achieved. But I feel that LOA is far too dynamic for this to occur. I often find that I try something and get results. Then when I attempt to follow the same process again I struggle to get results. I find I keep having to refine my thoughts and actions.

One of my favourite authors is Florence Scovel Shinn and she said, (loosely as I cannot find the exact words) “Man’s work is within.” With this she is referring to the control of ones emotions. Abraham talks about “choosing a better thought”. For me this indicates that it is not about following a set and rigid process, but constantly being aware of ones feelings, which are a key indicator of whether we are creating negatively or positively.

In context to this, last week I wrote about an exciting day I experienced. Today I am going to share some frustrations when things didn’t go so well.

The weekend is our busiest period in the store and it is important to achieving a good result, that you make good sales over the weekend. Last weekend was a struggle for me because I battled with my feelings.

One of my colleagues, who is the leading sales person the store, on Friday asked my to take care of a couple of clients for him as he was having the weekend off. I agreed to this, as we have an understanding that when the circumstances are reversed. he would do the same. Which he has done on a number of occasions.

First thing in the morning I had to write a credit for client who had cancelled their items and so I started the day in minus. Not a good start. My colleague’s first client came in. A small washing machine sale and I was able to complete it without much stress.

Soon the second client arrived and by this time the store was now full of customers. This client was a bit more difficult as they wanted me to demonstrate all the appliances. Also it was to be purchased on finance, which made it complicated and time consuming. As we went to sit and write up the deal I noticed face that I recognized, later realizing this was someone I had spoken to about a full set of kitchen appliances 2 weeks previously.

After an hour the deal was wrapped up and we headed to the cash desk to finalise the payment. There at the desk was the face I had briefly recognized paying for $6000 work of kitchen appliances with another sales person. Damn! A great opportunity lost.

The people I was dealing with were delightful and finally they went happily on their way, but my resentment to the amount of time I had spent was rising.

I always try and work on the basis of “there is enough for everybody” and by staying open and positive sales often seem to come to me magically, as I described last week. But the resentment was stuck in my stomach. No matter how many deep breaths or new thoughts I chose the lump of anger and resentment remained. Damn!

I went and had lunch to try and calm down to no avail. I approached a number of people with no luck. Finally I managed to find myself in the moment and calmed down and sold a stove, which countered the credit I had written in the morning. Now I was only $100 in the negative.

By this time the store had thinned of customers and it seemed my day was done and so it was. I walked out of the store disappointed and upset, vowing for a better result the next day. And it was. A lovely lady returned with her husband to make a good size purchase and that combined with a couple of small sales gave me a reasonable day.

Monday followed with a distinct lack of clients and I was able to ponder my weekend a little and came to the conclusion that I arrived at work tired on Saturday because I had stupidly played games on the computer until
12-30am. I was resentful of myself because I was not feeling good or positive and that seemed to paint the colour of the whole day. Also for the previous 2 weeks I had been holding the feeling of being in the top 3 sales people in the store. Up until this point I had held this position but I had lost focus on this feeling and subsequently my performance had slipped. When I return to work tomorrow this is certainly and area I intend to refocus on.

So you can see how important the tone of your feelings can be in allowing your desired creations into your life. Negative feelings including anger and resentment can have a large impact on what you receive in your life and so work on this area as proposed by Florence Scovel Shinn can bring great results.