Practical Attraction - A Personal Journey #6

I was replying to someone’s blog who was asking how to create the desired result from a court case they were contesting and this was what I wrote.

“You need to release the resistance your are feeling about the outcome of the case and the people with whom you are contesting the case. See the court case only in terms of them outcome you desire even if this outcome seems impossible or illogical. Then step back and allow source to create. Hold to positive feelings and if doubt or fear creeps, in look for a better thought or move your thoughts to a place of feeling good.”

“Hold to good feelings and your desire will come to you.”

When I looked at in terms of my own attempts to deliberately create it felt like a bit of an epiphany. So I re-wrote in more general terms that could be applied to most situations.


1/ Determine your desire. Find clarity.

This is what I want.

Write it down. Make a list. Be definite in what you want.


2/ Release any resistance you are feeling about the possible outcomes in relation to your desire.

Fears that you hold are the largest stumbling block to creating your desires. You can use any number of methods to release the fear including deep breathing, meditation and focusing on this very moment of now.

Also recently I came across the Sedona method which I have very effective at releasing fear and negative feelings.

The Sedona Method, in basic.

1) Start by just becoming ultimately aware of the moment.
2) Become aware of the thought you are having.
3) Notice where you feel it in your body, if you cant feel it, dont worry.
4) Begin asking yourself if you could allow yourself to let it go. "Could I let this thought/feeling/____ go?" Then answer yourself.
5) Next, ask yourself "If I could, would I let this thought/feeling/____ go?" Then answer.
6) Next, ask yourself "When?" and then answer yourself.


3/ See your desire in only terms of a positive outcome, even if this outcome seems impossible or illogical.

These thoughts should be free of the constraints of practicalities. Let your imagination go. Enjoy the freedom and feel how good these things will be.
The feelings you receive should feel light and give you energy.

4/ Then step back and allow source to create and intend to receive.

I think for many people this is the hardest of all things to do because we are brought up to take action to achieve our desires. Here we are delegating the creation of our desires to source. Hold to positive feelings and if doubt or fear creeps in look for a better thought or move your thoughts to a place of feeling good.

Our feelings are our compass. They show whether are thoughts and therefore vibrations we are sending out are in alignment with the creation of our desires.
But fearful thoughts about the future are for most of us, a very difficult habit to change. So we need to be conscious of our feelings and release any negative feelings as shown in step 2 then seek a better thought.

Be open to receiving your desire. Be ready. Calmly accept and be thankful

Expect the best!

Hold to good feelings and your desire will come to u.



Wishing you joyful creation!

Graham

The Plates and the Beach House.

The Plates and the Beach House.

I was at my sisters for Sunday lunch yesterday with a lot of other people to farewell my niece as she is about to take up a position as an entertainer on a cruise ship in the Mediterranean, which is fantastic news as it has been a difficult path for her to find work as a singer/dancer.

We were sitting down to a lovely lunch when my sister came past checking to see we were all enjoying our lunch.

“Do you like my beach house plates?” She asked motioning to wards the lovely new china we were eating off.

“Beach house …plates.” I replied somewhat confused, as I was certain that my sister didn’t own one.

“Yes.” She replied. “These are for the beach we are going to get.”

“West coast or down on the Peninsula.”

“Oh, definitely the Peninsula!” She confirm

My sister was deliberately creating even when she didn’t know it!

She has asked and is very definite about her desire to the point that she has already selected and purchased the crockery for the house. Last week I spoke of expectation and the effect it has on how quickly we manifest and you couldn’t get a higher level of expectation than already having purchased the crockery for your soon to appear beach house. Such a purchase in expectation of receiving your desire creates a vibration, which is in alignments with your desire.

I am very sure that my sister will very soon have her beach house!

This is a very sound strategy. In her book “The Game of Life” Florence Scovel Shinn talks of “digging ditches” which is preparing the foundations of the manifestation of your desires, which is exactly the action my sister has taken in the purchase of the plates. It shows “active faith” that you are going to receive your desires. By examining your actions you can identify whether you are preparing for success or failure. Do your actions demonstrate faith or fear?

Happy digging!

Graham

Practical Attraction - A Personal Journey #5

It seems at the moment that I am receiving regular flashes of ideas that are very appropriate to my situation. This week it was:

“It’s your level of expectation that determines how effectively you create when you deliberately creating using the LOA.”

Previously I have written about an idea I called the “Expectancy Scale”.
It consists of a range of feelings that you might have about the likely hood of receiving you desires. The range was:

DEPRESSION; PESSIMISTIC; MELANCHOLY; AMBIVALENT; HOPEFUL; EXPECTANT; BELIEF.


The idea is that the further down the scale towards the Depression you are the less likely that you are going to receive your desires. So by identifying here on the scale you are in relation to the feelings you are having a bout what you are deliberately creating you then choose better thoughts about your desire until your feelings are belief in receiving.

I have found that I need to search around for feelings of doubt and fear. The thoughts you hold about you desires must generate feelings of joy and certainty. There is no room for ifs or buts or the calamities that may occur if you deliberate creation does not eventuate.

I have found this an un unusual place for someone has lived on fear and trepidation for 50 years. If you live your life as though the sky is going to fall at any particular moment, then life is going to be a very bumpy ride!
And I can tell you mine has been a very bumpy ride.

But now I am smoothing out the road by choosing better thoughts and am truly amazed at how much better life can be.


Expect the Best!


Graham

Practical Attraction - A Personal Journey #4

I sometimes find that in creating with LOA I can get all tangled in knots. Monitoring feelings. Choosing a better thought. Getting burdened with the persistent thoughts and feelings of fear and negativity that won’t go away.
Worrying about the vibrations that I emmitting and how they might impede the arrival of what I am creating. Ensuring that I am in a position of allowing.

Then the other day the simplest of thoughts about how to handle of this came to me.

EXPECT THE BEST!

And really the law of attraction can be as simple as this. If the best things that we could expect came into our lives then we would be creating the best life we could have!

Expectation is a key to deliberate creation. How expectant we are will determine our quickly we will receive.

So it makes sense that if we expect the best in everything we are giving our attention too then we cannot help to create our best possible life.


Have great expectations!

Graham

Practical Attraction - A Personal Journey #3

Every now and again I receive a thought that feels like an epiphany. Here’s one I had recently, but I am really peeved that I lost the little note book that I had purchased recently to record such things. Even then what I had written, I don’t think the words exactly portray the feeling of the thought.

Here it is:

"Allowing is accepting thoughts, feelings and actions into your life, that your rational thought tells you are impossible, ridiculous, fanciful, unlikely and irrational. It’s is freeing yourself of the constraints of your rational thought and enjoying the freedom of your creative thought."

I think the key issue is being free of any fear or resistance from these, what you might call radical thoughts. Resistance and fear develops when we fall back to our old constraining thoughts, as we again measure or compare our lives to the frameworks and paradigms that have been learned in the “rational” world that we grew up in.

Allowing is letting the vibrations generated by our thoughts to sit in the moment. No wanting, no fear, no resistance. Just enjoy the vibration of your desire kind of floating in the ether. Now your job is receiving, the penultimate act of allowing. Check that you are feeling good and stay out of the way of the non-physical bringing your desires. When you have received be truly thankful.

Allow yourself a great life.

Graham

Practical Atraction - A Personal Journey #2

Well life has been interesting as I continue to work to get myself into the vibration that will create abundance for me. The past couple of weeks I have had some experiences that have been almost euphoric in feeling, learnt a lot about the place I think I need to be and had battles with my feelings as I struggle to maintain the state of “feeling good”.

Recently I have had some days where I have felt buoyant and good, almost to the point of euphoria. I have been able to stay in the moment of now and release fear of calamities that could enter my life. When thoughts of things I didn’t want began to enter my mind I was able to move to the outcomes I wanted and find the feeling of allowing these things into my life. In short I have been able partition myself from those thoughts that generate fear and only think of things the way I would like them to be.

It is a curious feeling to live not based on the reality you have been brought up to believe but to move to that life you desire. I have found that there is always a part of me that wants to move back to security of those thoughts of fear and worry, which are “old” friends. To not be full of fear, when the possibility of calamities entering your life exist, is truly a new experience for me and I have to guard against spiraling downwards into m old thought habits.

In fact it has happened that I have become overcome with fear and it has felt like a battle to get back to feeling good, as those negative thoughts are well practiced and very persistent. I meditate every day and this is a powerful tool to neutralise fearful thoughts, but still I have good and bad days and it is one of my goals to be able to maintain calm and well being even in the most trying of circumstances. It makes sense that since you attract what you think, then if you maintain positivity, even in the most difficult circumstance, then you only attract positive things.

On of the things I try to daily is to read a part of a book or a quote because often they will remind you of an important point that you may otherwise overlook. The other day I found something profound in a daily Abraham quote I receive by email.

“The realization that something is not as you want it to be is an important first step, but once you have identified that, the faster you are able to turn your attention in the direction of a solution, the better, because a continuing exploration of the problem will prevent you from finding the solution. The problem is different vibrational frequency than the solution – and all thoughts (or vibration) are affected (or managed by) the Law of Attraction.”

Abraham.

This resonated with me, as it is contrary to the way most of us deal with difficult situations. Most of us when faced with a problem, wrestle with it. Focus upon the negative aspects and the effect of it. Obviously this generates vibrations which are more likely to perpetuate the situation. Therefore looking for a positive vibration makes perfect sense if you are wanting to create a solutions.

Positive vibrations to you all at this festive time of the year!

Graham.

Practical Atraction - A Personal Journey #1

As I have written previously, I am manifesting money for bills and debts, which are becoming increasingly urgent in their need to be paid.

It has been a journey in excruciating ebbs and flows of negative emotions.

There have been times when I have felt calm and positivity in which I held strong feelings of expectation and an openness to allow my desires to manifest.

Conversely there have been times when the negative emotions have left me feeling fractured and terrified of the out come. A long time student of meditation using crystals, I have had to use them frequently to calm my fears. All my old habits of negative thought over ran any positivity I felt. It was also interesting that at times I felt calm, I also felt this uneasiness that I wasn’t feeling all the stress and unease that I had usually felt in this situation. And so consequently I would start feeling stressed again. A real paradox!

During the calm periods I received a number of strong intuitive flashes.

The first flash was:

Ignore the consequences. That is, don’t focus on the calamities that may occur if you don’t pay your obligations. Focus on staying in the moment and feeling good to allow your desires.

Detach from the outcome. Don’t emit feelings of this must happen, as this promotes a feeling of lack which will hold your desires away from you. This is part of allowing.

Be free of fear. Stay in the moment and focus on feeling good. Fear will hold your desires away from you.

Allow the flow…..head downstream. Allow the flow of life. Once the divine has been invoked you must allow it to bring your desires to you. Be ready to receive.

Let the money flow out. Like breathing, it must be allowed to flow in out. Fixating on keeping what you have is focusing on the perceived scarcity of money and will slow money coming to you. You must have a strong expectation of receiving.

What vibration do you want to emit. When you are feeling fear is that what you want to emit. Listen to your feelings. Choose a better feeling thought!

Further to this, I have found that as I monitored my feelings I could detect my base feeling. That is, the one which I emit by default. It is the one that I carry around all day, which has grown from all the experiences and lessons I have had over the years. It’s full of “I can’t do that.” And, “that won’t happen to me. That happens to other people who are better than me.” Also, “Your just totally ungrounded if that’s gonna happen!”

These feelings and thoughts are the enemy. This is the belief system that is bringing all the things you don’t want! Monitor your feelings. Choose confident and optimistic thoughts! Choose a great life!

Have fabulous manifestations!

Graham

The Law Of Attraction Sales Warrior - At the Coal Face 8

Continuing on from last week, I am currently allowing the manifestation of money that I require in my life. I am concentrating on staying in that place that is expecting this to enter my life. I am also focusing on feeling on good as this will show I am in alignment with my higher self. But in looking for a better thought each time fear or uneasiness approaches I found myself in unusual place. A place where I questioned, why I was not feeling fear and ill at ease place as this has been the norm in the past

It seemed most unusual and showed that in difficult situations I expected to feel overwhelming anxiety and nervousness. Instead here I was moving my feelings to a better place by choosing a better thought. It showed to me how habitual this decent into anxiousness had become.

I suppose if you analyse this it shows what I have been habitually creating in my life. There have been a number of occasions in my life where I have virtually run up the white flag of surrender because I have not been able to cope with the overwhelming fear that I have felt. It shows I have created as I have felt. A great deal of negativity

I believe this change signals a move to more positive manifestation in my life!

Manifest a great life!

Graham.

The Law Of Attraction Sales Warrior - At the Coal Face 7 - Allowing

Today I want to continue talking about allowing. Rather than continue with my sales based examples, I would like to talk to you about my struggle with manifesting money. For sometime money has seemed scarce to me. Rarely has there seemed to be enough to do the things I want to do in life, as I have lurched from one bill to another.

Now I find my self once again with significantly less money than I need and have been struggling for sometime to manifest what I need. I have found this process has thrown up all sorts of negative feelings about money. From, “I never have money!” To, “I never earn enough money.” And continues with, “Bills always come at the wrong time!” You get the idea.

The dead line for this money is near and I have been trying to conquer thoughts of all the scenarios and consequences that come to pass should I not receive the money. Florence Scovel Shinn in “The Game of Life” talks of

“ perfect faith” which dictates that once you have asked for your desires, th all your thoughts should be on receiving the manifestation, not planning an alternative action should the manifestation not be received. She has lots of great little stories to explain and illustrate this. And it has some logic to it that if you asking source to bring a particular thing, then thoughts of any sort of alternative, demonstrates you do truly expect the desired result and yet it is this expectation which is key. Also I believe there is flow involved in manifestation and so any “earthly interference” disrupts this flow.

And so today I have gotten my feelings into a place of expectation. I have used the statement I wrote of last week. “What if all this is resolved and this problem of not having money just melts away?”

Now I feel calm and relaxed and received the thought, “There is nothing more important than feeling good” and this situation demonstrates to clearly the importance of this statement. I have found in my sales process that this attainment of calm is important and has always brought success to me and this all feels right in this moment of time.

The Law Of Attraction Sales Warrior - At the Coal Face 6 - Allowing

The experience I wanted to talk about today was a situation I had with a customer. He had ordered a group of appliances for his kitchen and all were ready for collection except for his cook top, which wouldn’t be available for 2 weeks and his kitchen was being installed as we speak.

On Monday afternoon I attempted to talk a manager about what we maybe able to do to solve the problem. Just as she became available, a client returned and used up all my remaining time for the day. Tuesday was my day off, but I resolved to come in next morning to fix the problem before it got out of hand.

So there I was driving to work on my day off, running later than I had planned, due to a minor disaster at home, and whining in my thoughts about having to do so and imagining the struggle I was about endure to get this customer his cook top. Feeling all this negativity building up with me, I decided this was not the way to go and remembered similar occasions where instead I had thought, “What if the problem was solved? What if it just melted away and I could get on with enjoying my day off?”

Good feelings rose within me and I felt much better as I held onto this thought. Soon I arrived at work, collected the information about the customer, including a brochure on the cook top than I needed to source. I went up to the manager and she saw the brochure.

“Do you need one of those?”

I then started to pour out my tale of woe when she interrupted me and said.

“ He was in this morning and I managed to get the warehouse to allocate him one as some of the other customers who have bought them, don’t need them for a few weeks.”

Problem solved! It just melted away! Amazing!

If I am guilty of anything it is to too often to forgetting to release my negative thoughts and move to a better one and allow the universe to act. The outcomes can be amazing and life is so much better!

I think that problems have a kind of density to them that makes it easy for us to hold on to. We rationalize them. We examine them we whine about them and generally magnify their vibrational strength.

So, next time you find yourself going over and over something problematic.

Stop!!!!!

Think. “What if…………..”

Feel the relief and release it to universe. Don’t force any more thoughts about your desires. Trust the universe the universe to handle it. Now check how you are feeling.

Good? Move on with your day.

Negative? Look for another thought until you feel relief.

I think this releasing to the universe, that is allowing, is the thing we all have the most difficulty with as we are taught to tackle problems. Wrestle with them and persist.

For many this process of release would seem far too passive. Maybe even a cop out. But if you can find the feeling of trust in the universe your desires will be answered.

Allow yourself a wonderful life!

Graham.

The Law Of Attraction Sales Warrior - At the Coal Face 5

After 5 days off I am invigorated again and experiencing good energy. This week I have again been focusing on quotes “Manifest Your Desires” by Esther & Jerry Hicks. In particular: “It is not possible to stand still, or be stuck, because Energy, and therefore, life, is always in motion. Things are always changing. But the reason it may feel to you as if you are stuck is because while you are continuing to think the same the thoughts, things are changing – but they are changing to the same thing, over and over. If you want things to change to different things, you must think different thoughts. And that simply requires finding unfamiliar ways of approaching familiar subjects.” This resonates with me because when seeking to create positively I often end up in the same old place. “Nothing’s happening. I can’t do this.” And guess what. Nothing does change! The time I have had off work has been great and I am feeling good. I find when I am tired that my connection to energy wanes and it is much harder to move from where I am to choosing a new thought. I find I can get stuck in negativity a bit and this was the reason I chose to take a few days off, because I knew I was struggling to feel good when I chose a new thought. But the energy is back and I am feeling positive. This quote is important because it explains why many of us struggle to create positively because many of old thoughts the create our “reality” are deeply entrenched and are hard to move. As an example of changing thought patterns, I have been playing a game with myself when I have driving my car. A gentle and sensitive person I unfortunately seem to grow horns once I get behind the wheel. I am a safe driver these days but I am prone to get impatient and some of this has to do with my keen interest in motor racing and so I tend to treat driving my car like being in a Grand Prix and try to cover the distance required in the shortest possible time, whilst staying with in the speed limit. So this leads to a bit of swearing and derogatory names flung at other drivers. What I have been doing is adjusting my thought from the position of: “Get out of my way. I’m in hurry.” To: “Smooth, safe and calm.” Every time the aggression begins to rise, I move my thoughts to: “Smooth, safe and calm.” The effect on my driving is dramatic. I now flow with the traffic, retain my calm, which obviously makes a safer driver, who still seems to take the same amount of time to get to places. In the context of my selling I have found my set point thoughts to be: “I’m struggling because of the poor economy. If it wasn’t for that I would be doing well.” “Sales are hard to come by.” “I can’t earn what I want.” It’s pretty easy to see where I am going to end up with thoughts like that! So I am moving to: “I am a great sales person.” “I always attract sales easily.” “I am one of the top sales people in the company.” I find the difference palpable. On the days I remain calm and hold these thoughts then things always go well. Recently there have been days where it has been very quiet for most of the day and then I have made sales late and gone home happy. If it is quiet in the morning and I am beginning to feel a bit negative about how the day is going to be, I choose: “It’s not how you start. It is how you finish.” And: “I often make sales late in the day.” I find these help me allow sales to come to me. Once you think: “It’s a dead day.” Or you start thinking about telling your partner you’ve had a lousy, as I have done on occasion, you are interrupting the flow and it will certainly turn out as you expect. Move to more positive thoughts and reap the rewards! Happy selling! Graham.

The Law Of Attraction Sales Warrior - At the Coal Face 4

I am currently in the middle of having 5 days off work as I have taken a couple of annual leave days attached to my regular days off. I took these days off because I have a new rotating roster in which I work 6 days, have 1 day off, work 6 days have a day off and then have 6 days off in the next 14. I don’t like it very much and compared to my old roster where I had consistent and evenly spread days off, I find it taxing and that it wears me out. Thus the leave days off to have a breather and freshen up. But I kind off wonder whether fatigue is produced as much by my continual discontent with the roster and me persistently thinking that the roster is tough and that I find it tough to make it through. I am always thinking, “ It’s tough. It’s unfair. I don’t like it. It wears me out. My energy feels low.” You can see the frame of mind or tone this creates. And the result has been that in the last day my sales have been very poor and I have really struggled. My results have been similar to most other people in the store, as traffic has been very quiet, but in the past if I have maintained a positive tone of expectancy I still achieved good results inn these circumstances. So this brings me to my point. Is my situation the result of my negative thoughts and tone? I was thinking about this today, as it has been a key goal for me during my days off, too bring the positivity back into my life. Then it came to me. The tone of our thoughts has an impact on the life we create on short term basis as I have described, but also we actually have an underlying tone to our lives all the time. Those inherent thoughts that creep into minds all day every day and form a major part of who we are. “ I’m not very well off.” “I haven’t got enough money.” “I’m OK at my job.” “I’m not good at sports.” “ I can’t control my weight.’ “I eat too much.” “I’m always sick.” “I catch every bug that’s going round.” “ I’m not one of the popular people.” “Good things never happen to me.” “I never win.” Of course hopefully you carry some positive thoughts as well, and I sure some people carry a greater number of positive thoughts than negative. “I’m good at this.” “My work is enjoyable and rewarding.” “I have plenty of money to enjoy a great holiday.” “I buy new clothes all the time.” “I always change my car over every 3 years.” “I always look and feel great.” “I am fit and healthy.” “I always do well.” “I am a champion.” I found it an interesting exercise to watching these thoughts as they came along. What you will find is there is a general tone, which is the balance between the positive and negative. Are the thoughts a greater degree in the positive? Or are the weight of thoughts in the negative? If we believe that our life is created via the LOA then this balance will dictate whether we are experiencing positive or negative creation in our life. Another way to look at this is imagine you had three dollops of paint. One dollop is a primary colour like blue and the other two dollops being black dollop and a white respectively. If black represents negativity and white positivity, so as you add more black, so does the tone darken. Conversely as you add more white the tone brightens. And so it is with our thoughts. As we offer more positive thoughts what we create is positive. And conversely with more negative thoughts we create in the negative. And so our role is monitor that underlining tone and move to lighter and brighter thoughts that will bring us our desires. My personal tone is not very positive. It includes struggle, hardship, low expectancy and compromise. By adopting more allowing thoughts I expect to receive my life desires.